Many are desperate to preserve their marriages - to continue reaping the emotional and financial support of wives, and domestic pleasures like tucking children in at night.
They consider themselves to be devoted husbands, conscientious fathers and suburban homeowners, and what typically brings them to the point of crisis in their 40’s, 50’s and even 60’s is their first emotional connection with another man.įor gay men in heterosexual marriages, even after the status quo becomes unbearable, the pull of domestic life remains powerful.
They generally limit their encounters with men to anonymous one-night stands and tell all manner of lies if their wives suspect. THEY spend decades denying their sexual confusion to themselves and others.
